There are different versions of Sexual Aversion which can include Loss of Desire, Anorgasmia, Sexual Pain Disorders, and Sexual Anorexia. Each of the links above will take you to a page or a questionnaire to help you to better understand the definitions.
Fearing sex because of frightening or traumatic experiences, inept lovers, physical pain, or lack of awareness can lead to serious intimacy issues both in and out of relationships.
The issues involved can include a history of rape or abuse, religious indoctrination, scarring post childbirth, infection and much more.
There is huge suffering involved in all of these aspects of intimate expression, or the determined lack of, and it can feel embarrassing, frightening and overwhelming to delve into the history behind these experiences.
For some, the aversion to sex can tie into serious eating disorders, with weight ballooning when not in relationships and falling away to sexual and food anorexia combined when intimacy is required.
For others, learning to become present to the physical experience of love making, to end flashbacks, change the arousal cycle, or to get the correct diagnosis for medical attention or intervention can make a huge difference.
Therapy helps hugely in all aspects. Unravelling the histories and fears, re-programming the thought processes, learning how to become intimate with yourself and another, and to maintain intimacy are all part of the therapeutic process.
I am Carolyn Cowan, a Psychosexual & Relationship Therapist who is also a sex addiction therapist and a member of COSRT & ATSAC.
You can make appointments to see me in Belgravia, central or south London. I can also work via Skype or FaceTime.
To discuss therapy options, clarify questions or to make an appointment I can be contacted by email at firstname.lastname@example.org or by phone on 0208 6513233